You don’t want to send a novel length message to a woman you’re chatting up for the first time online. The perfect open message is a small, casual 100 words or less. If you want to avoid the too long; didn’t read phenomenon of the internet you should keep to that limit. Here’s how to say what you really mean in such a short space. Why Keep It Brief First of all, why would you want to keep it brief? It seems like you’d want to send her a nice, long message that lets her know that you’ve read her profile. To a certain extent you do. “Hey, what’s up?” is a terrible icebreaker. If you send her five detailed paragraphs, however, you’re going to look weird. You don’t want to stray to the “too long; didn’t read” side, and you also don’t want to come on too strong. Very long opening messages make you seem like you’re desperate. Also, you’ll have covered so many topics in the course of this one long response that it would be difficult for her to pick out on specific thing to respond to. Overwhelm her, and you won’t get the message back you deserve. The Rule of Three For a well balanced message…