“Make her feel special by giving her a rose”
So you’ve finally met the perfect girl and you’ve come to find out she’s never dated anyone before. Your brain wonders immediately if there’s something wrong with her, but in reality it’s probably just that she’s known jerks her entire life and has been too busy to find someone with boyfriend material. If you want this relationship to work, it’s best to take a step back and give her some space to get comfortable with you. Dating is unfamiliar to her, so it’s important to keep in mind that everything means more to her and she is bound to react differently than women you’ve been with in the past.
Asking Her Out
You may or may not have covered this stage by the time you’re reading this blog. Chances are she will be one of two things if she’s never dated: Shy or Desperate. Both have their pros and cons. If she’s shy you’ll have to be careful to catch her attention often without intimidating her. Start a casual conversation over lunch if she’s a coworker, or make friendly remarks on your day if you’re a patron where she works. If you share mutual friends, now is a good time to get your friends involved in helping you by having a hang out day with everyone so she doesn’t feel cornered with you. It will be more of a long-term effort, but stay firm without crossing into the creepy or desperate territory yourself.
Dealing With Desperate Women
If she’s the desperate type you’ll want to have a very different approach to getting things started. You may need to watch out for signs that she’s already planning your wedding on the 2nd date. On one hand it’s great as it means she likes you, on the other hand you have to be careful that’s she’s really into you and not just the idea of having a boyfriend. The good news is she’ll be a lot more willing to try anything you might desire, even if you have to deal with her texting you every half hour. The best thing you can do if you want to keep her around is make her feel secure. If you don’t give her a reason to doubt your affection, chances are she’ll feel more secure in your relationship and give you the space you need.
Slow But Steady
“She’ll take time to open up”
Don’t pressure her into sexual acts if she’s not ready, all in good time. But also don’t give her the impression that you’re blaze about sex. It’s ok to clearly indicate your sexual interest while at the same time expressing your respect for her speed of intimacy. But definitely let her know what you want long term; it makes her feel wanted and secure in the fact that you are sexually attracted to her. Besides, there’s a lot of ground to cover before you get to actually having sex, so learn to enjoy each other in other ways while you’re getting there!