Let’s face it: athletic dudes are the ones that tend to draw the most attention from women. Attraction is based largely on physical appearance. This makes it hard for guys that aren’t overly athletic looking to compete against the bigger, brawnier dudes. So how can you get an edge over the guys that hit the gym religiously every day? There are a couple of methods that can work for you.
Play to Your Strengths
Maybe you’re not sporting six-pack abs. This doesn’t mean you can’t be just as attractive to women as sporty guys are. You just need to pinpoint things that women find attractive about you and work from there. If you have nice facial features, for example, trim or grow some scruff to accent what you’ve got going on. If you’re tall and lean, choose clothes that work for that kind of build. The same goes if you’re shorter and wider. A little effort in those departments can have you looking just as good as other guys.
Humour is a huge part of what women look for in men. Does this mean you need to run around telling jokes constantly? No. If you start joking around at the expense of others you’re going to look like a dick. Just be clever when the situation calls for it. Make casual observations or remarks that are relevant to what you and she are talking about. This type of humor is the kind that’s most attractive to the ladies.
Don’t Be Arrogant
It’s all right to be smart. It’s not all right to brag about it and rub it in other people’s faces. If your intelligence is something you’re proud of, that’s fine. Just know that if you start waving it around like it makes you better than everyone else you’re going to look like an arrogant douche. There are ways to let women know you’re smart without turning them off. Show them through conversation. Don’t be long-winded and pretentious. Instead, make your opinions or thoughts known on a topic in a light and casual way. If she comes to the realization on her own that you’re intelligent without you having to brag about it, she’s going to be far more interested.
It’s a stereotype that athletic guys are always outgoing and the quieter, nerdier guys are introverted. So the best way to draw a woman’s attention to you when you’re surrounded by dudes that are into sports is to step up and put yourself out there. Be open, friendly, and engaging. Try to approach women instead of waiting for them to approach you. Be the one to start conversations. Be the guy that asks for a dance. Ask a sexy lady if you can buy her a drink. Confidence is a turn on and can make all the difference.
Don’t Fly the Nerd Flag
There’s nothing wrong with being a nerd. In fact, nerds are quickly becoming more and more mainstream. That said, the fact that you play videogames or watch the Syfy channel religiously isn’t necessarily something you need to share right away. So just wait until you know her better before you share all those details.